Monday, January 19, 2009

Real Mothers

Real Mothers don't eat quiche; they don't have time to make it.

Real Mothers know that their kitchen utensils are probably in the sandbox.

Real Mothers often have sticky floors, filthy ovens and happy kids.

Real Mothers know that dried play dough doesn't come out of carpets.

Real Mothers don't want to know what the vacuum just sucked up.

Real Mothers sometimes ask 'Why me?' and get their answer when a little
voice says, 'Because I love you best.'

Real Mothers know that a child's growth is not measured by height or years
or grade...It is marked by the progression of Mommy to Mom to Mother...

The Images of Mother

4 YEARS OF AGE - My Mommy can do anything!
8 YEARS OF AGE - My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!
12 YEARS OF AGE - My Mother doesn't really know quite everything.
14 YEARS OF AGE - Natu rally, Mother doesn't know that, either.
16 YEARS OF AGE - Mother? She's hopelessly old-fashioned.
18 YEARS OF AGE - Th at old woman? She's way out of date!
25 YEARS OF AGE - Well, she might know a little bit about it!
35 YEARS OF AGE - Before we decide, let's get Mom's opinion.
45 YEARS OF AGE - Wonder what Mom would have thought about it?
65 YEARS OF AGE - Wish I could talk it over with Mom.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the do or way to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, and the beauty of a woman with passing years only grows!



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1 comment:

Dan said...

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The Old Age Of Youth

Soon after my daughter was born, I subconsciously changed from who I had been in the past. I was at the young age of 35 at the time. It was then that I completely stopped drinking copious amounts of adult beverages (I was, well, a heavy drinker, by definition- but only for about 20 years). I started exercising for hours daily. My diet consisted of essentially everything not made by a human for a change. This behavior I implemented upon myself was not self-centered in any way from the perspective of acknowledging my individuality, or to display myself to others in any way. I wished to accomplish that which I had not so far in my life span. And my daughter may have been a catalyst for this. My love for her infected me.
As I approached the age of forty, I found myself looking within myself even more so. I began listening to those silent voices that I had disregarded in the past I now regret. And discovered I had much more to do that was more important than what I had done, or was doing, at the time.
As a result, I left a very lucrative job with intent. I started writing- fueled by undefined intrinsic passion. I began holding more doors for others. The ego I had before this occurred, which was completely delusional and the size of Asia, my neurons recalibrated and expanded. and I no longer get angry. I have not located conscious hate within me for many years now. At the same time, I find myself misdirected, depressed, afraid, and often lonely from abandoning friends who were those from my past, and question this metamorphosis I created with intent.
This is my midlife crisis- that continues with relentless persistence.
A midlife crisis has been associated and acknowledged in Western countries in the world, and this time frame in one’s life is the least explored period due to its perceived dullness that exists in the human lifespan. In the U.S., the existence of the midlife crisis has been associated with our focus on our culture’s youth as being the ideal lifespan period. Yet midlife crisis is recognized in at least 80 other countries, and this may be considered an affective disorder.
Many others believe the crisis does not exist, and is rather attributed to amplified life stressors, for example. While debatable, this period of time that such a crisis exists may fall between the ages of the 30s to the 50s. Depression associated with this crisis presents itself in one in their mid 40s of their age.
A crisis may be defined as an emotional state of extreme doubt and anxiety as one reflects on their past successes, followed by what such a person desperately desires to accomplish in their future. It is a turning point for an individual that consists of incredible pain, distress, and often other unexpected dysfunctions. It is a period in one’s life that consists of reflection and self-assessment. Often, one in such a crisis find themselves searching for unclear goals, as they regret what they have not done so far. Often, the one in a midlife crisis prefers isolation from others. At times, such a person makes desperate attempts to re-acquire their youth.
Behavioral changes likely occur with one experiencing a mid life crisis. This may be necessary as one becomes determined to accomplish certain things that they now view are more worthwhile than what they have done in the past. The behavior is often impulsive. The one in a midlife crisis consistently focuses on life’s meaning frequently- and a strong desire to do something different due to their discontent for what they have done in the past. This is a period of deep re-assessment for those in a midlife crisis. How the individual expresses their crisis is not dependent on their income or ethnicity as well. Yet likely their complexes are rather overt.
Often, the midlife crisis consists of those at this age authentically striving for new and bonafide ambitions as they realize that success as defined by them in the past is entirely void of happiness or fulfillment. Their most notable feeling or emotion often is a strong sense of regret for what has not been done by them yet. This may be a catalyst in some midlife crisis people to abuse substances and experience unbelievable depths of depression.
Yet those in crisis must discover and fulfill their deep, intimate potential to meet what is now within them, and will possess discontent until this occurs. One who may experience a midlife crisis may do so between possibly the ages of the 30s through the 50s. The average age typically is the mid 40s. Both genders may experience this crisis, yet they express this crisis in different ways. These half way points in the lives of others express themselves with others with varying degrees of severity that depends on multiple personal variables. Over 25 percent of those in the United States greater than the age of 35 believe they have had, or are experiencing, a midlife crisis.
The one experiencing this crisis often soul searches while experiencing this stressful event that often is overwhelming for them, as this alteration of themselves does not allow such a person’s coping mechanisms utilized in the past to be of any use. Yet the one in a midlife crisis proves to be resilient often, and their intrinsic drive to discover and fulfill their deep and innate is a necessity. They must do something different than what they have done in the past. This crisis is emotionally significant to one in this crisis, and involves significant changes of status with intent on one experiencing this crisis. So this period of time is unstable and unpleasant, yet perceived to be crucial by one experiencing their midlife status.
While many stereotypically believes that one claiming to be experiencing a midlife crisis is largely due to them realizing that they are in fact aging, evidence proves that this involves a small fraction of those within a mid life crisis. Rather, the crisis involves one exploring dreams unfulfilled, as well as the acquisition of new intentions they wish to accomplish in their lives. Gail Sheedy wrote a popular book in 1976 entitled, “Passages”. One thing she stated in this book about the human lifespan was, “The task of midlife is not to look into the light, but to bring light into the darkness.”
Dr. Carl Jung, called the father of Humanism as well as Transpersonal Psychology, explored the midlife crisis rather thoroughly. He believed the midlife crisis is a human condition that is completely natural. He developed stages of this crisis with what is called a Myer-Briggs Personality model, which consisted of the following:
Accommodation- When one presents themselves as a different person. Preferences one possesses are innate
Separation- One removes their previous mask they wore, assess what is behind this mask they placed upon themselves, and authenticate the etiology for now rejecting this mask that hid their ego. This is also called by Dr. Jung the word personae.
Individuation- one recognizes and integrates existing intrinsic conflicts in order to balance them to achieve self-actualization and true awareness. To achieve totality. The conscious and unconscious in one actually shake hands.
Liminality- the suspended animation of one in a midlife crisis during the transformation
Dr. Jung wrote about his own midlife crisis, beginning with severing his relationship with Dr. Sigmund Freud. He said that we, as humans, have the ability during this crisis to experience egocide, in which the previous false self experiences apoptosis, while the true self is born, and developed in time. This is self-realization, and its potential, according to Dr. Jung, lies within the second half of one’s life. He once said as well that new creation of oneself involves their instinct acting from their inner necessity. Also, Dr. Jung said with incredible accuracy that there is no coming to consciousness without pain.
Life is suffering, as well as determination. Others during their midlife crisis have either noticed or have performed great things they thought were not possible in the past regarding their ability and drive. One may become a nationally known author. Another may re-enter the academic world and become a famous researcher.
One may become a better parent.
Personally, I would rather consider such endeavors as what was just mentioned, rather than buy a very fast car, and befriend girls half my age to reassure my perception of my former self that did not exist.
Leave something behind.
Dan Abshear (United States)